If You Hate Ur Life

This morning, I went around the small town. Go to the villages I saw a very mmm I do not know how to say it. 

Then I thought, how I was not grateful to my life. 

I want a lux house, newer car, feel the balance is not always enough for my life. I sometimes feel jealous of  girl A because she has a world brand handbags, girl B can buy luxury vehicles. Then the girl C who had a partner as handsome as Edward Cullen. Ha ha ha. 

And in my mind, I assume it's still human.

Then, I want to like the girl who wore a gray blouse. Teaching in the classroom, and sang with her students. 

Or like the girl who wore red uniforms, beautyful make up in the bank or on the plane.

How I was not grateful. Then I complain, why do I have to be like this. Could only see jealous of them. 

When I spend time in the big city, I see luxury homes, expensive apartments, and a big mall. I'm so jealous. Shopping with lots of shopping bags are not able to be taken by these two hands. And I still want to do a holiday trip to India, Venice and China, which must be very expensive as well.

And at the peak of saturation, I feel I became very hated myself for not being able as they are more successful than most other girls.

But this morning,

I saw woven bamboo walls of their house almost broken down. Dirt-floored house, and only small.

No mall, plaza or minimarket. There is only a small grocery store with dusty goods. I see girls who are very different. Without powder, eyeshadow, blush and lipstick. They do not read fashion magazines. Wearing clothes that I think does not matching. Yellow tshirt and bright green skirt. But they seemed to glow naturally.

No brightly colored small car in their driveway. There is only a rusty bicycle that took them to the fields and gardens. Washing at river.

But they looked very smiling. Their smile more cheerful. Not confused to find an ATM to view account balances. Because they only have money for this day. Their desire is very simple. Can come together with family, children, husband. See their children grow up. As long as their children can eat on time and go to school, no one else can make them anxious. 

When I heard them talking with their local language, (perhaps they think that I can only understand Bahasa Indonesia). They said, "It was good to be that girl (me). It looks pretty, neat, fragrant, clean, bright and had a wonderful future. We are village women, who live only for the routine. If I was given the chance, I want to be like her. or at least sometime, my daughter as her"

After that, I could only get into the car, reflect their words. How I should be more grateful for what I've got.

LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

Hi ladies, Nowadays, so many couples undergoing relationship with LDR. Live dating to the road is indeed very difficult. How come? We must believe in the words of a man who is much there. He could have an affair with his friend. That's why a lot of couples that can not be lasting in dating with LDR. LDR so scary, is not it? We just "have to" believe in him that much there. We're going to be afraid, he is tempted by another girl around. Not easy, indeed. And I'm here to agree with the opinion that the LDR is very likely to succeed passed.

This is not nonsense, ladies. All it took effort and hard work. Relationships with someone who are close was hard enough, moreover him that there is so far with us. I never experienced such a relationship, and we can maintain our love. 

Believe in him, not just the only one point. Many other things we have to do.

We must have a plan. Call it the MASTER PLAN. It will be the basic goal of our commitment. We must agree with him, to bring it together. Remind each other of our big goals. Indeed, to realize the dream, we sometimes have to sacrifice something we have. But many of us have to be patient, and wait for the right time.

Ladies, the silly things we often do is think about him all day. We make no concentration at work. Usually, it applies to ladies who obesesif. And I have a tendency to do that, though sometimes I realized that it was not true. We must believe, and avoid thinking he would be "naughty" with another girl around. We need to control our minds. I've been almost like a crazy person, just because he did not answer in a day. Without realizing it, it just makes him fear us. 

Nowadays technology is very advanced, Ladies. You can use whats app, BBM, Line, Skype, Viber and others.

Take the time to always give attention. Remember give ATTENTION, not STALKING.  

Talking to the heart, it is very difficult. Such as torture. But that we must live. By always hopes, all our plans with him will be realized. Assure him that we are the right choice for him. And for him to understand, we also need attention. We need it most, though not his chest to lean on, at least his voice and his face during a video call is enough to make us calm and sure that we and he LOVED EACH OTHER  

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

Obsessive-Compulsive disease characterized by obsessions and compulsions. Obsession is an idea, a fantasy or encouragement recurrent, unwanted and disturbing, which seems silly, odd or scary. Compulsion is the urge or compulsion to do something that would alleviate the discomfort associated with obsessions.

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, OCD is a condition in which an individual is unable to control of thoughts became an obsession that was not expected and repeated several times certain acts in order to control the mind is to lower the level of anxiety. Obsessive-compulsive disorder is an anxiety disorder in which the individual's life is dominated by repetatif thoughts (obsessions) that is followed by repeated acts (compulsions) to reduce anxiety.

Patients with this disorder may have sought to combat these disturbing thoughts that arise repeatedly but unable to resist the urge to act over and over to make sure everything is fine.

CAUSE

The cause is unknown. Obsessive-compulsive disorder is not related to a characteristic shape one's personality, in individuals who have the personality obsessive-compulsive disorder tend to take pride in accuracy, neatness and attention to the little things, contrary to the obsessive-compulsive disorder, individuals feel pressured by the emergence of behavior can not be controlled. They feel embarrassed when these behaviors questioned by those who see it as doing the job that repeatedly. They are trying desperately to get rid of the habit.

Causes Obsessive Compulsive are:

Genetic - (Descendants). Those who have a family member who has a history of illness is likely at risk of OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder).

Organic  Problems such as neurological problems occur section - a specific part of the brain is also a factor for OCD. Nerve disorders such as those caused by meningitis and encephalitis are also one of the causes of OCD.

Personality - Those who have an obsessive personality disorder is more likely to get OCD. The characteristics of those who have this personality is as outrageous concerned with aspects of hygiene, someone who is too obedient to the rules, talkative, hard work together and not easily succumb.

Past experience - past experience / past too easily mencorakkan way a person handles the problem of whom to show symptoms of OCD.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder closely related to a history of depression or anxiety before. Some symptoms of obsessive-compulsive patients often also shows

Conflict - Those who have this disorder usually face conflicts soul that comes from living matter. For example, the relationship between husband and wife, in the workplace, self-confidence.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder closely related to depression, or a history of previous anxiety. Some symptoms of obsessive-compulsive patients often also showed symptoms similar to depression. Obsessive behavior in depressed mothers tried many times or a desire to kill her baby.

INDIVIDUAL RISK

Individuals at risk for obsessive-compulsive disorder is;

Individuals who experienced problems in the family of a broken home, errors or loss of childhood. (This theory is still considered to be weak but can still be taken into account)

Neurobilogi factors may include damage to the frontal lobe, the basal ganglia and cingulum.

Individuals who have high stress intensity

A history of anxiety disorders

Depression

Individuals who experience sexual harassment

SYMPTOMS

Common obsessions can be anxiety about contamination, doubt, loss and assault. Sufferers feel compelled to perform rituals, namely repetitive actions, purposeful and intentional.

Most of the ritual can be seen directly, such as repeated hand washing or repeatedly checking the door to ensure that the door was locked. Other rituals are mental activities, such as counting or making repeated statements to eliminate the hazard.

Patients can be obsessed by all things and rituals are performed are not always logically associated with discomfort will be reduced if the patient runs the ritual. Patients who are concerned about pollution, discomfort is reduced if he put his hand into his pocket. Therefore, every obsession about contamination arise, he would repeatedly put his hand in his pocket.

Most people realize that his obsession does not reflect the real risks. They realize that the physical and mental perliku too much even tend odd.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder differs from disease psychosis, since the psychosis sufferer loses contact with reality. Patients fear of being humiliated so that they perform rituals in secret. Approximately one third of patients experience depression when his illness was diagnosed.

Symptoms are characterized by repetition (repetatif) thoughts and actions of at least 4 times to the compulsions of the day and lasts for 1 to 2 weeks later. Utam obsession-compulsive symptoms should meet the following criteria:

Behaviors and thoughts that arise are fully realized by individuals or based on impulse in itself. Individuals also realize that his behavior is not rational, but still made to reduce anxiety.

Some behaviors that appear realized by the individual and try to fight habits and thoughts of anxiety is hardest, but to no avail.

The thoughts and actions do not provide relief, a sense of satisfaction or pleasure, but rather is caused by excessive anxiety and reduce stress felt.

Obsessions and compulsions are repetitive nature constantly in several times each day.

CHARACTERISTICS obsessive compulsive

Symptoms of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is characterized by repetition of thoughts and actions at least 4 times to the compulsions of the day and lasts for 1 to 2 weeks later. The main obsession-compulsive symptoms should meet the following criteria:

Behaviors and thoughts that arise are fully realized by individuals or based on impulse in itself. Individuals also realize that his behavior is not rational, but still made to reduce anxiety.

Some behaviors that appear realized by individuals and tried to fight the habits and thoughts of anxiety is hardest, but to no avail.

The thoughts and actions do not provide relief, a sense of satisfaction or pleasure, but rather is caused by excessive anxiety and reduce stress felt.

Obsessions (thoughts) and compulsions (behaviors) of its repeated continuously in a couple of times each day.

Obsessions and compulsions causing the pressure inside the patient and spend time (more than one hour a day), or significantly interfere with a person's normal functioning, or social activities or relationships with others.

Sufferers feel compelled to perform rituals, namely repetitive actions such as hand washing and checking for a particular purpose.

VARIETY OF BEHAVIOR DISORDERS WHEN OFTEN HAPPENS:

Cleaning or washing hands

Check or check

Collate

Collect or hoard goods

Count or repeat thoughts that always appears (obsessive)

Fear of contamination disease

Fear of harming others

Fear of being wrong

Fear of being impolite

Need accuracy or symmetry

Confused or excessive doubts.

Repeating count many times (to worry about errors on the order of numbers)

Individuals who have obsessive-compulsive disorder sometimes have the mind intrusive without action repetatif clear but most patients showed compulsive behavior as an advanced form of negative thoughts before appearing repeatedly, such as fear infected with the bacteria, people with obsessive-compulsive disorder often wash hand (washer) and other common behaviors as above

Imperfect Angel

When we fall, and really fell, God always sends angels to help us stand up. Wipe away tears. Make us feel better. I remember, some time ago, you said I was an angel who make you feel better when you're bad.
And at that moment I also think you are the guardian angels. Every time, God always sends angels in our lives. Whether in any form. But we really do not know how to realize who the angel was.

2005-2007.
The worst year ever I get. But it seems God always gives bidders when I'm sick. A man, with all the foolishness, so take care of me like I was his daughter. Surprising how God divides sorrow and happiness. When I got home late at night, he picked me up at the end of the road. No matter at any time. All he knew was that I was so scared the roads are narrow and dark. During a fight with my boyfriend, he was willing to hear my story until I fell asleep. He is another person who thinks I'm his little daughter.
He also supported me when I'm falling. I had been a waiteress a small cafe in my town. Own cafe is not a friendly person. Until I can not stand it, I just cried. He , a man who assumed I was her daughter, asked me back to his house.
However, when I really had a good life, why did he go? He left before I could share  happy to him. He returns to God who has sent him.

Some time ago, someone assumed I was his angel. He said that he could smile, even when the worst. He always felt better because of me. And I also like to feel something similar.
We have a way of its own and very unique. So we forget that we have a limit of time. And when conscious, we're running out of time.

Same with the story in the movies, whether amateur film director, or a famous director. Their story has a hero who becomes a savior.
However, behind the goodness of our heroes, there will be episodes that must be replaced with another hero. That is, as the cycle of leaves. Dry leaves would fall to be replaced a new leaf.

No one is able to perfect. But we have to be better.